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How to stop speaking with others?

Everyone. I am basically an Undergraduate Student in an University in Asia.

My Classes started in the Month of August 2025. Now before coming to college I made my mind in such a way that I decided that I will not speak with others but instead if anyone asks me anything, then I will reply.

But after coming to the college, my friends are repeatedly trying to speak with me and want to make me their friends. But I really don't want that. Not only the friends but also the Teachers of the University are also disturbing me repeatedly. I basically don't want to take the help of others, but the Teachers are repeatedly asking me that if you have any doubts then please ask.

I want to stay alone and silent. But the environment is not permitting to do that. Everytime someone is always available to disturb me.

Please guide me how to get rid of these things. I want to know that how can I control myselves ?

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**Not only the friends but also the Teachers of the University are also disturbing me repeatedly.....I want to stay alone and silent**

I think you are confusing what true silence is. If your mind is not *silent*, no amount of seclusion from the outside world will provide your mind with peace. The first step is to acknowledge, recognise and understand the craving for solitude/silence/peace in our mind.

See this craving and how it is disturbing our mind. Be alert, acknowledge, watch and observe its presence.....especially in those moments when the outside world infringes into our so-called “precious sphere of quietude”. When that happens, just stay alert, aware and watch craving’s presence, see how it shouts, screams and demands. See how irritation, frustration and anger joined forces in such times. There is no need to fight, suppress or control all of these emotions. Watch them like an audience watching different people acting out a play. Recognize them as they appear in the play (*ah...that’s **irritation** acting out its role right now and I see **frustration** and **anger** lurking behind the scene waiting for their moment to make an entrance*).

I don’t know how long the above process will take. But a moment will come when the mind realize that this desire and its companions are really not wonderful friends to have but overbearing guests. Then our mind begins to get tired of their presence and tantrums. That’s when we finally recognize them for what they are i.e. tyrants, slave masters and obsessive-compulsive control freaks. That’s when we are ready to uninvite these guests and let them be on their way. Strangely, I believe when that happens, it’s also when we begin to understand what true solitude and silence is about.

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